forgetting things...

ive learned that remembering things about past relationships does not help current ones. your overwhelming urge to understand your current relationship based on past ones is an act of futility. for the simple fact: you are not with the same person. different rules apply. get over it. move on. your defense mechanisms developed out of negative experiences are rooted in the misconception that everyone will act the same. your past is the past. the future is uncertain. you can be cautious but then again, take a risk. you may just end up being so happy, you would nt believe how silly you were...